Deeper perspectives on “sugar problems”

Jan 31, 2021 | Tags : eating psychology, overeating, sugar, | 4 Comments

It’s said that the desire for sweet food can mask a deeper desire for “sweetness” itself. But what is this sweet?

Without consciously knowing it, many yearn for a Warm Mother’s Lap to crawl into or curl up beside, to be held, fully seen, and loved unconditionally. As sugarchildren, without the love and mirroring of the mother or maternal figure, the child does not know how they are, how they’re feeling, or even have a sense of who they are.

Fast forward, much later, a troubling email comes in. Or the pants fit snugly today. Or there’s a disagreement. Or a major transition.

The person is unable to give words to or acknowledge their true feelings, or worries, or pain yet the psyche is still flooded by the truth. There’s no presence to see the whole of the situation, to name the distress, let alone hold it and care for it. Within moments, the hands are in the bag of candy or reaching for someTHING.

Some call it “a sugar problem” and feel the solution is to just stop eating it. But in these situations, the invitation is not simply a superficial abstinence from sugar, but to let Love in, and to finally know what it really is to love and care for oneself, for better or worse.

(c) Laura Burkett 2021

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Comments (7)
Matthew Feb 1, 2021

These words came to me in a relevant time. My partner and I are in a long distance relationship and after one month of being together for the holidays, she had to go home. Since she left I've been binging multiple times a week- which didn't happen at all while she was here. But I think reading this post helped me gain some insight as to why my compulsiveness is rising.
Suzanne Feb 2, 2021

Beautiful words, and too true!
Laura Burkett Feb 27, 2021

Thank you Suzanne! I'm glad this resonated for you. We're all so human in this <3
Laura Burkett Feb 27, 2021

Matthew, thank you so much for sharing. I know how tough/confusing binge eating can be. I'm so glad you're gaining insight to the deeper dimensions under the binges themselves. There's usually far more to it than meets the eye <3
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