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I couldn’t get motivated. Then this happened…

Not long ago, I almost passed this tiny creature on a rainy stroll through country roads near my home one evening.

I assumed it was just another rock, but something slowed me down as I passed by.

I backed up and crouched down to get a better look.

A teeny tiny turtle.

Process oriented therapist, Amy Mindell, would call this a “flirt,” a particular something that could easily go unnoticed, but gets your attention in a way that you can pause and then can ask, “What might this be trying to express to me?”

For me, it was a little invitation to let go of the agenda I was clinging to today, roll with the current mood, and just enjoy a more a restorative kind of pace that evening.

I found this was a much better fit for me.


Invitations (a term I’ve come to love, via C. Michael Smith) come to us in a variety of forms whether somatically, by way of a comment from a friend or random person while running errands, a meaningful number or word on a license plate, a synchronicity, a particular dream, a lingering pain or symptom, a depression, or a frustrating eating habit that doesn’t seem to want to budge.

Or by way of a “flirt.”

During the work I do with clients, even if I don’t speak to it directly, one part of me is always very present to content of the conversation in a session together while another part is staying open to invitations presenting themselves.

Here’s an example:

The 3pm Sugar Slump

There’s a sub-set of us ladies out there that enjoy being productive and efficient throughout the day. A natural shift in energy or mood may feel like an inconvenience to push past.

I’ve spoken to a number of women who find that their afternoon sugar-eating habit (that they so despise) often creeps in during one of these “less efficient” cycles (a NATURAL down cycle of energy, by the way).

The invitation seems simple enough: Take some more breaks.

But if you feel into it, it’s actually inviting the eater to re-evaluate the way she enters her world, consider the value of play, rest, “non-productive” ways of being, perhaps even tending to her interior life, one of dreaming or feeling…the sort of spaciousness that allows for intuitive hits and gut feelings.

It’s a space to find value in simply being.

Or a space to accept human needs.

Or an invitation in learning how to flow with the natural rhythms of life.

Or a space to feel into what’s truly important by turning inward.

These are lovely invitations, don’t you think?

I hope this has your gears turning

With love,


Ready to explore more of this concept by way of a common eating habit? Join me this coming Wednesday, April 19th, at 7:30pm EST for a community tele-class: A Nutrition class for Overeating. Sign up here

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