The Crux of Healing Your Eating Habits

Many clients come into this work, not really knowing how much power this belief has on them:

"Something is wrong with me."

They often ALSO don't realize how powerfully a part of them is determined to fix themselves.

(This drives the years-long quests to find the perfect diet, reach the perfect weight, find the

When we operate from fixing, there is no legitimate healing.

perfect workout program, or invest an incredible amount of energy into diet, calories, and food rules)

But no matter how hard this side tries to manage or control, what remains untouched is the belief that "something is wrong with me."

So all we're left with is manic activity and self-improvement projects that attempt to keep shame at arms length.

Fears of Self-Acceptance

Many women have a part of their personality that fears that if they no longer believe that something is wrong with them, that they'll just give up, settle, or resign themself to a body or way of eating that they can't stand. This part of the personality often feels that shaming oneself is the only effective way to make any positive change.

But nothing could be further from the truth.

When we operate from fixing, there is no legitimate healing. That means that the underlying shame is always there, vulnerable to get activated at any time.

And that's certainly not a fun way to live. Not knowing if a comment about body weight, a friend talking about their diet, pants fitting loosely or snugly, a trip to the doctor's office where you'll be weighed, listening to the next online diet expert/influencer, or getting into conflict with a loved one, is going to massively trip that wire, that painful belief, that something is wrong with you for who you are, how you look, how you feel...

More tightly controlling the diet won't heal anything.

Painful habits like binge eating and overeating won't heal anything either (though they are an understandable attempt at pushing pain away short-term)

Healing Your Eating Habits

If you want to have a confident, loving, mature relationship with food, we must get to the root, and work with the places where Love got cut off. For many women this means developing an entirely new relationship to the body as a deeply feeling woman who learns how to feel and trust.

With love,

Laura

Reach out to Laura here to inquire about scheduling availability. And here to check out, Heal Your Eating, Laura's 3-month eating psychology training.